What hat am I wearing now?

Last week, I felt stuck.  Stuck and a little overwhelmed.  I hope that revelation doesn't shatter your beliefs that as a coach, I have it all together, all of the time.  Nope.  I'm human and face the same challenges as everyone else.  It was actually a little infuriating because I knew all of the things I needed to do and I had the tools to do it, but I just couldn't shake off the stuck-edness.  

So, I called my coach.  

In this case, I couldn't get motivated to get going and get things done.  Part of me wanted to crawl into bed and sleep, the other part wanted to lose myself in mindless television shows.  Talking it through with my coach, I realized I was struggling with the roles I hold.  Like you, I am a lot of things to a lot of people.  I am a coach and a consultant, I'm a mom, and I'm a business owner.  I'm also bookkeeper for our family farm, I'm a Master's student, I'm a volunteer and I'm lead caretaker of our home.  I choose to be all of those things and I receive great joy from each of those roles. But, I was exhausted and overwhelmed with all of the hats I was wearing... many within the same day.  I wasn't giving myself enough time to transition from one role to the next.  And, I wasn't giving myself enough time to be me, for me, without any of those other roles and expectations attached.

My coach helped me to get to the root of why I was stuck.  She also reminded me of the ways I had successfully tackled similar feelings and situations before.  We explored together whether those strategies would work now and what new ones I could employ.  She was encouraging and gave me confidence.  We also laughed about some of the expectations I set for myself and how I can reframe them into something more healthy and right for me.  It was just what I needed.  Within our call, I felt more energy than I had all day.  And the next day and the days that have followed were a lot better because I intentionally organized my day by limiting the hats I wear to 2 or 3 instead of all of them.  

Everyone feels a little stuck at some point.  Many of us play multiple roles in our lives.  We can choose how we wear those hats from day to day and moment to moment.  And, it's okay to reach out for help when we need it.