My husband is a great guy. He is always trying to teach me about things I don't know. Such as, how to unclog a sink, how the engine of our truck works and how to keep houseplants alive more than 3 days. Despite the best of intentions, his teaching doesn't always hit the mark.
Not long ago,I would have felt that this was some kind of failure. I would have continued to struggle in an uphill battle to master it all and held onto to negative feelings that ranged from irritation to shame.
A magical shift has happened over the last couple of years. (I'd like to think it's wisdom and not just age, but it's likely a combination.)
More than any other time in my life, I am comfortable in my own skin. While I still have much to learn and goals to strive for, I don't feel as though I have to prove myself any longer. I spend less time comparing myself to others and focus in on exploring my own potential. I know what I'm good at and I've accepted the areas that I'm not. I ask for help a lot more quickly than before.
It's a very peaceful way to live. Rather than being confined by my own limitations; I feel free to deeply explore the gifts I have been given.
So, I am quick to tell my husband that while I may learn the basics of unclogging a sink, I'm sure it will be a messy job. I will have only a slight understanding about how an engine works. Finally, it is reasonable to assume I will continue to kill our houseplants if left in charge of them over long periods of time. And, I am okay with that and I hope he can grow to be as well.
Perhaps you can relate? When did you begin to gracefully accept the person you are? Or, is still a struggle? We may be able to help. We would like to hear your story.