Whenever I facilitate HR training with teams and organizations, I usually start with an apology. For those who want a one-size-fits-all approach, HR is not your discipline. There are best practices and employment legislation that apply broadly and at the same time each situation must be considered on its own merits.
I was reminded of the power of AND when working with my own coach this week. Rather than being frustrated by it, this important concept unleashed feelings of possibility.
In our youth, the world and our lives seem very black and white. As we get older and have more experiences, I think the action of holding two things in creative tension is something we learn to do. Acknowledging that both A and B exist at the same time, is not always easy. It is worth it, however, as it is more realistic and offers opportunities for increased creative problem-solving. In any sentence, AND is always more constructive than BUT.
Working on a goal that is important to me, I was struggling to put my true feelings into words. I felt paralyzed by the idea that I should be grateful for what I have but I knew I wanted something more. By changing one small word in my thought process, my coach reminded me, I could have both at the same time. I am thankful for all that I have AND I want to strive for something more.
Finding the AND when it comes to the goals that are most important to us, is not always easy. What dreams are on hold right now? Where are you stuck? This week, try to look for your AND to shift your perspective and move things forward.