All about the how

All about the how

"Mom, he was mean to me?"

"I just asked him to pass me a toy!"

"Yes, but how did you ask him?"

This theme of "how" seems to be a common thread in multiple areas of my life right now.  From a friend anticipating the end of a work project, but feeling sad and hurt by how the manager is choosing to handle it.  Another friend, starting a new job but who felt grilled and disrespected by a unorganized and lengthy hiring process.